The message of anger is that something is unacceptable to us - something is not OK. Seems pretty simple, really. So why has it been sooo... hard for me to manage? Some of you too, huh?

Anger intensifies into rage and fury when we ignore it. And I don't know about you but I can scare the heck out of myself let alone anybody else, when I go into rage and fury.

Like our other emotions, we get opportunities to do something about our anger when it's in the early warning alarm system stage, such as mild annoyance or even less than that, that feeling that I call "not quite right".

1. Whose anger, annoyance (or "not quite right") is it?

2. What do I need to know or do about it?

3. Has it all gone yet? Is there any anger, annoyance or "not quite right" still left? If the anger didn't get smaller, then what you have come up with does not fit with what your soul is trying to tell you. If the anger hasn't gone altogether, every last tiny, wee, little bit, then you haven't got everything that your soul needs you to know or do, so keep asking the first two questions until it has all gone.

If we don't deal with our anger as an early warning system, when it's only mild annoyance or "not quite right", deliberately and consciously - then we'll feel the emotion more strongly. Which is when we experience anger as an unpleasant or "bad" emotion. The unpleasantness of the stronger emotion often has us avoiding dealing with it, which ends up with it getting stronger and stronger, ending up eventually as rage.

If we don't do something like The Questions to resolve our anger, we can choose to work it off physically -- run until we drop, use a punching bag, dance, use music, belt a bean bag with a plastic baseball bat from the kids toy store, tear up old phone books, lie on the ground and kick and scream (hopefully where nobody else can see or hear us, cos' we'll look a bit silly!)

When we don't do anything at all about our anger, that's when we bury it in our bodies, where it does harm, particularly to the liver - with long held resentment damaging the gall bladder.

Unfortunately the next time we feel angry, all the old angers come whooshing up with it, intensifying our anger into rage and fury, which is the stuff that we usually find so hard to manage.

Whenever I feel anger, the right answers to The Questions will cause all the anger to just disappear. Even rage, if I can keep control of it long enough to ask and answer the questions, will just disappear when I get the right answer.

I put an emphasis on this last paragraph because it's sooo... huge.

I've spoken before about calling my rage the "black beast". It's been my really big issue and I've had a whole bunch of eye openers about it. When I started to look at anger I realized that I was angry at loved ones who were doing things that I had never told them were not acceptable, never told them that what was happening was not OK.

In fact, I had never even about what was OK to me and what was not - let alone told my family.

I've had rage come bubbling up so fiercely that I've lashed out before I could even think and cussing has been a great outlet too. If you've been in this place too, then (like I had to) you might like to look in the mirror and decide if that's who you really want to be.

Once we've made that decision, then it's our job to do everything we can to protect other people from any of our rage and fury while we do what we have to do to get rid of it.

Asking ourselves The Questions is the most powerful thing that we can do.

2. What do I need to know or do about it?

3. Has it all gone yet? And keep asking the first two questions until it has all gone -- every last tiny little bit of rage and of anger, every last tiny little bit of annoyance or whatever your early warning signal is - all of it has to be gone for us to know what our soul wanted us to know or do.

I had an interesting insight one day about the desperate human need to be RIGHT being a form of VIOLENCE. That's another verrry interesting thought!

And have you noticed how often we tell people we're angry about something and get an outcome that is the opposite to the one we wanted? Well, the great thing about The Questions is that the answer always fits with who you really are and with your dreams. More about that soon!

Shame and guilt are another one of my patterns that I've done a lot of work to change. The trouble with shame and guilt is that they are neither productive nor useful. We can get stuck there and not make the changes that are necessary to bring peace and joy back into our lives and thus into other people's lives too. And that can make the rage even bigger. At these times, it's really ourselves that we are angry at, but in the past we didn't know what to do about it, we didn't have the tools. Well now we do.... The tool is in our hands, in the messages from our soul, in The Questions that allow us to hear the messages from our soul.