It was this healing session with young Jess that gave me the extraordinary insight that not all our thoughts are our own. That we all pick up on other people's thoughts so naturally that we think they are our own thoughts. That this is not just the gift of psychics or other specially sensitive people, it is a natural talent and a natural connectedness of all beings.

We were doing a Spirit of Horse clinic at our beautiful property in Tanjil South, learning how to work with our horses with an amazing mental connection, when 17 year old Jess came and asked if she could speak to me privately. Jess was a shy and timid girl, a black haired, dark eyed, tall, classic Italian beauty, who walked slightly hunched over as if protecting herself - a gentle soul, with an incredible gentle vulnerability about her.

She was extremely distressed about sexual abuse that had occurred when she was only six years old that had been preying on her mind all night. It was an abuse that had torn her father's family apart in a particularly horrible way.

She lay in the healing room, while I'm pouring reiki healing into her, her face stressed with a confession that she had been unable to tell anybody about because it was so horrifying to her.

For years now, when she looked at a small child she often had thoughts of hurting them and her arm was waving about in a chopping motion as she described the way she talked to herself. "This is awful. How could you even think of such a thing. That's not the sort of person you are. There's no way you could hurt anybody, let alone a little kid" And her hands were going chop, chop in the air trying to cut off these ugly thoughts.

I don't remember what led up to this moment in this healing session for me but I look up to the heavens and say thank you to the wonderful being who was guiding me. I got her to go back and remember the last time she was thinking like that and roll those distressing thoughts away from her like a wave, so that she could still feel them, but they were no longer overwhelming.

Then I asked her "Are those your thoughts...?

With a dawning sense of wonder she said "No, they're not".

From that point on it wasn't rocket science for me, but then I asked "Whose thoughts are they?"

There are no prizes for guessing that the thoughts were actually those of her abuser. As Jess realized that the struggle to not hurt any more little children was actually HIS struggle and that that torment was HIS torment, her heart opened up to this man who had hurt her so badly and unconditional love poured from her heart to him.

The awesomeness of that moment for me was truly amazing. Not only was I privileged to get an insight into a truth so huge and so vast that it's going to change the world, I was also privileged to be in the presence of an awe-inspiring event.

I got that in that moment, this man had an opportunity for redemption that had not existed before. He may never see that girl again and if her family have their way that certainly won't ever happen, but at that moment, he would have felt that amazing unconditional love pour from that young woman to him.

Jess walked into that room that morning a frightened, timid little girl and she walked out a proud, tall and amazing woman.

And I got just the first glimpse as to how sexual abuse runs in families and how the abused can become the abuser and how we, you and me, can change that -- and how Jess has changed that for the world.

So here's a toast to young Jess, whose courage to confess something so frightening and terrible, started me off realizing that not all thoughts that come into our heads are our thoughts. That other people's thoughts can come in so strongly that we actually think that these thoughts are ours. That if our thoughts are not consistent with "who we are", then they may well not be our thoughts at all.

And that this amazing and very natural connectedness to other beings enables us to understand them in a very powerful way - an understanding that when enough people know about it, will bring peace on earth -- a dream that young Jess has been dreaming since she was a small child...