This section is from the book "The New Cyclopaedia of Domestic Economy, and Practical Housekeeper", by Elizabeth Fries Ellet. Also available from Amazon: The New Cyclopaedia of Domestic Economy, and Practical Housekeeper.
Besides the benefit a woman derives in her health and person from attention to all matters relative to personal care, she will gain another in the effect of her example upon her dependants; for we are all, to a certain extent, creatures of imitation, and prone to follow example, be it good or bad. Servants who see before them one who consistently practises the virtues of economy, regularity, personal cleanliness, and general neatness, will never run diametrically counter to all this, but will in some degree shape their conduct accordingly, while all the precepts in the world, without practice, will but go in at one ear and out at the other. Where only one or two servants are kept, the mistress will do well not to leave her chamber before she has opened her windows, and laid the bed-clothes back over two chairs so as to insure the sheets and blankets, heated by contact with the body all night, being well aired and cooled. No bed should be made, or night-dress folded up, until it has been aired, and suffered thoroughly to cool for at least two hours. Nurseries should be aired while the children are at breakfast, and while they are taking their morning walk. Dining and drawing-rooms require a current of fresh air passed through them at least once every day, to dislodge all the stale atmosphere tainted by the smell of food, flowers, etc, and by having been inhaled by those using the rooms. Many of our readers have doubtless been struck, on entering some houses, by the close, faint, unwholesome smell they, coming from the fresh air, at once perceive. Those who dwell in it habitually are not conscious of it. They dread the chill of fresh air, or the dust it will bring with it into their rooms; and therefore shut it carefully out, and cherish in its stead a species of slow poison - a heavy atmosphere loaded with all sorts of pernicious gases.
Light, too, is another forbidden luxury in some houses. Heavy Venetian blinds jealously protect the delicate hues of the curtains and carpets from its influence, and the inmates consequently fade instead of their upholstery; for a human being can no more do without light than can a flower, and we only need place this latter in a cellar for a few days, and we shall see how it will look. It must not, however, be supposed that we would recklessly suffer the noonday sun to shine on our damask curtains or tapestried carpets, or that we should open our windows when rain, hail, or snow beat full upon them; all we wish to do is, to advise such a use of the choicest gifts of Providence, as health requires and common sense would dictate.
Nor is it only with a view to exercising a salutary influence upon her domestics and strengthening herself, that we would counsel our housewife to pay strict attention to all matters of sanitary importance. A female writer of some celebrity has said, " If. before marriage, a woman has been deluded into the no-tion that a multiplicity of small ailments invested her character with an interesting kind of delicacy, the sooner she becomes well after marriage, the better for herself and all around her."
Now we do not intend to assert that there are not many men who are unwearied in their tenderness in time of illness; but this we must say. that there are thousands more who "vote sickness a bore;" who have little sympathy with, little tolerance for it; who married to have a cheerful companion, not a drooping, languid invalid, to come home to; and who soon begin to seek elsewhere that companionship and cheerfulness they have failed to find at home. And alas! when a man's love has once been dimmed, or alienated from his wife, it never wholly recovers its lost lustre, but remains a mere mechanical matter of duty or honor, and too often not even that. Matrimony may bind a man to his wife legally, but herself only can retain her empire over his heart; and to do this, she will need even more than her former charms and attractions and fascinations, besides a vast variety of other attributes which her new position will require of her.
Women little dream what they peril when, after marriage, they neglect the accomplishments, the tasteful dress and adornment, the charming coquelierie of manner, which enthralled the lover. They not only risk their happiness, for it depends on him, but they neglect what ought to be their highest ambition, that of proving how much dearer is the wife than the mistress, and of rendering his home a refuge from cares, a scene of tranquil happiness, of social enjoyment, and of real comfort. Milton is not uttering a merely poetical exclamation, but a great truth, when he says -
"For nothing lovelier can be found In woman than to study household good, And good works in her husband to promote;" for a woman who is true to herself will inevitably be the better angel of her husband. Contact with her true heart, her gentle pursuance of all her duties, and with her cheerful, rational, and earnest spirit, will restore the tone of his mind, defiled, saddened, rendered morbid, it may be, by contact with the outer world and all its chicanery, its worry and its debasing influences. Wisely are all things ordered, if we would hot, by our follies, our impatience and self-seeking, derange them. Beautiful is the mission of woman, if she would but see it in all its holiness and brightness.
Those who have a home which they can make happy, will not sigh for contact with the outer world, to be permitted to wrestle and contend among its fierce trials and the fiercer spirits that struggle there for daily bread; or despise the peaceful path of domestic duty, which, although it has its trials, is yet in a great degree sheltered; or reject the gentle ties of wife, mother, sister, to study some learned profession, and rush into those haunts and paths already too crowded with the sterner sex. Such must be the lot, nevertheless, of many women, whom necessitous circumstances have forced into an unnatural position.
 
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